I very first posted this blog back in March 2010 on my old site. But several people have asked me how I cope with fear and negativity around me so I decided to post it once again in hopes that my words can help others.

 Negative Energy

Sometimes we have negative energy or negative things or even people around us that need to be "declutterd" so to speak. I have always had the need to constantly keep organization in my life. I always go through clothes that no longer fit me or my children and I always give them to an organization that then gives them away to others for free. I honestly believe in paying it forward so to speak. I also have a tendency to do this in my everyday life as well and with people around me. I believe that kindness and help toward others is always the way even though sometimes I am took advantage of for my kindness. About every 4 months I make it a point to look at my life really strongly and decide what is helping me and what is hurting me and then I make decisions accordingly. So of course I have been going through the basement, attic, kids room, etc... But I have also been going through the people in my life. Although I love a lot of the people that are currently in my life I know that there are times when they hurt me more than help me and this is when I cut off ties. It does hurt and sometimes feels selfish but in the long run it has always helped. Because in actuality you cannot help others unless you can help yourself.
 Each person and each circumstance is different. I know that I constantly live in fear that the things I love will end or leave and it takes a strong person to move past that and try to think only positive which is hard when negative things keep happening. The thing that I found that works best for me is to frequently evaluate my life and surroundings. I go on a decluttering spree you could say. Anything negative in my life I try to remove if at all posibble and that can include family and friends unfortunately. If someone or something in my life is hurting me more than helping me than I need to make a conscious decision to move forward with out that person or thing. I also have to weigh out my choices with the pros and cons because I do not want to make myself unhappy either. so in any situation this tends to always help me.